I've been feeling really horrible and awful and I don't know what to do
Sometimes feelings and mental states can take a great big 180 turn, something you're probably unfortunately aware of.
It's hard to do anything when feeling this way so the fact you've asked for advice is brilliant.
When I use to get these feelings, I use to ensure to take 5 to 10 mins out of my day to completely focus on these feeling and just rummage around in my head. What am I actually fearing right now?
Although this can be daunting, for me it greatly helped. I'd imagine each thought being filed into a cabinet to organise them or, if it really bothered me, going straight into the shredder.
Make sure you are being as up front with your feelings when possible and give yourself a chance to let it burst out.
DON'T MAKE YOUR FEELINGS INTO PHYSICAL DANGERS
If you can, even if it is just one, ensure an adult is aware of how you are feeling (preferably one who is caring, you know how some adults can be!)
It's great you are looking for answers. It's okay to feel this way. You're doing great.
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Okay, so basically last year I was in a very abusive relationship with a guy one year older than me. I'll call him T. How was he abusive? He always made me feel like I wasn't worth anything. He isolated me from my friends. And he forced me to do sexual things with him at school.
We broke up so many times, but 2 months ago, we finally broke up for real. But even though now I don't have to deal with the abuse anymore ((i have a new boyfriend)), I actually got PTSD from the relationship, which sucks because I already have depression and anxiety.. I have constant flashbacks that cause me to have anxiety attacks/freak out at random times. I'm scared of him.. I see him every day in the halls, and I always feel like he's going to approach me.
I told my counselor, but she told me I was just overreacting..
Any advice on what I should do?
First things first, you are not over reacting, and congratulations on getting yourself out of that situation. You deserve better than him.
That situation sounds so difficult. Personally I have also been through abuse and I know how it feels to go through flashback. My first main advice is to speak out about the flashbacks to people as you cannot deal with them just by yourself! Do you have a doctor you can visit? I really do think that may give you a massive help. If you'd like to talk about it any further feel free to message me on Facebook and I am always here.
If he approaches you, keep your cool. You're over him, correct? He doesn't deserve your fear or your tears. Talk calmly, stay collected, and try to have a friend there to back you up. If you look like you're over him and are finally confident, it'll happen in reality and he'll leave you alone. Headphones are also a good idea, if you don't want to talk to him.
Also Allie- it may be worth reporting that he forced you. It is not okay to do that and it may be beneficial making a statement to the police about it
I hope some of this helped, remember that you deserve the best and you have worth. Stay safe
Caitlyn and Kira
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Hi. I'm not sure quite where to begin. I guess I'll jump straight into it - I think I have an eating disorder. I've done some research and found one that fits me all do well - compulsive eating disorder. If I'm honest, I don't think my parents would be all too supportive, and my grandparents would be plain rude about it. I have had the same body type all my life - I'm skinny and slightly above average height for my age - and if I'm honest, it only appears as a hindrance for recovery. It feels like the only way I can recover is by developing a hatred for my body and forcing myself to diet in some sick, twisted way. The problem is, this has been going on for three years, nearly, though I've only just noticed it. I have no other ideas on recovery, there are no articles for this type of eating disorder here, and I don't think I have anywhere else to turn to.
First of all, I just want to say that you have definitely made a good start by realising that there is a problem. I beg that you don't self diagnose though and seek the help of a health care professional when you can. Whether your school nurse or psychologist, family doctor or general practitioner (GP), or you ask a trusted family friend or adult if you are a minor, or even just ask a friend to go with you.
I've done some research since reading your question on Compulsive Eating Disorder or Binge Eating Disorder (CED or BED) to see what the best thing for you to do now might be. I still strongly urge you to go and get a diagnosis and then talk treatment options with a professional. If this is strongly out of the question then I think there are a few things that you could do for yourself in a healthy way to change your habits.
First of all, definitely have meal/food journal. Whether this be an app on your phone, or just written out on some lined paper. Tracking everything you eat in a day is a good start to any change in diet. From there, make notes on when you are eating the most and in that time period you can try distract yourself with something else that is healthier and/or more productive than a compulsive binge.
Drink water every time you feel like eating something, wait twenty minutes and then decide if you want to eat it. It is important that you do eat three healthily proportioned meals a day though. However drinking water before a meal will help you feel fuller quicker.
I really hope that this has helped you, and I am sorry on behalf of the TWE writers that there aren't many articles on eating disorders especially ones related to EDNOS (eating disorders not otherwise specified) or CED/BED.
I hope that you find it a little easier to smile and deal with this issue. If you want to send in another question on what to do about the parents and grandparents issue then please do, we will be happy to help.
Thank you for reaching out to us, but this is just the first step. Keep going!
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How do I get exam motivation to be able to sit down and revise? I know in my head that I need to, but when it comes to sitting down and putting the pen to the paper I just dont have the motivation to do it. Instead I waste most of my days away watching shows, other than doing what I know I need to do
This is a common problem with trying to study, and I know for a fact that I have done this many times in the last few weeks. What I would suggest doing is making sure you are in quiet room with no distractions. Make sure that your phone is either in another room on silent, or tuned off completely. If you have to use your computer as a word processor, turn off your internet for a while until you are done, but if you need your computer for research, consider finding the information and printing it off so that that temptation to go on social media is minimum. If you still can't concentrate and find yourself getting distracted, go for a short walk or jog and come back to it after. If it is actually getting motivated to do the studying, think of what might happen if you don't, and prepare a small reward for if you do finish it.
Hope this helps,
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I have been feeling left out ...i just move to a new place . My "best friends" uh well they know I have mental illness...but they always say i'm trying to help you..but really i feel like they are getting annoyed so i have ask them to stop texting me....i feel lost....
Moving to a new place can be scary and if you're quite a reserved person it can be very hard to try and make new friends.
If you're friends know you have a mental illness and they say they're trying to help you, it's most likely true. If they didn't care and you were annoying them, they wouldn't tell you they're trying to help.
I know it is very hard having a mental illness and it sucks to feel like you have no one standing beside you. But in all of the dark that you're in, there's a lot of people who will stand by you and will help you through what you're going through. I wouldn't suggest asking your friends not to text you too often, as it could become a habit and you may end up distancing yourself a lot from then and I think that would worsen your situation.
Please remember you have a lot of people next to you, even if it doesn't feel like it.
You're very important to your friends and if they're trying to help you, I think you should let them.
The paranoia in your head telling you that you're annoying them is wrong. You're friends are there to help you and stick by you, so maybe confront them about how you're feeling. Telling them you're worried that you're annoying them could lead them to reassure you you're not.
I hope I could be of help and please come to us again if you have any other issues you struggle to talk about
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Hi, lately I've been getting the feeling that I'm hollow, almost as if I'm empty inside Okay
This can be quite a common feeling, even though unpleasant, for people who are going through their teenager years. Some things that you can do to feel less hollow is writing or drawing, or any creative outlet that you have. You can show people, or you can just keep it to yourself,especially if it makes you happy!
If this hollowness is also linked with no motivation and a feeling of helplessness, then maybe now is a good time to surround yourself with good influences and supportive friends.
If there is also a feeling of loneliness, I suggest reaching out to some people online, us being a great start! As well as making friends around you.
Now don't panic or self diagnose yourself with any mental health issues! Please go see a medical or mental health professional before taking the step of a diagnosis. This could be a very normal reaction to your hormones or to just being a teenager. It just means you need some you time, and a little extra support.
Have a bath, paint your nails, ride your bike or cuddle a cute animal, watch a funny video, and hang out with some nice people.
Do NOT lock yourself away with a feeling of hollowness or emptiness.
If you create anything you are proud of, feel free to email it to us and we can post it on our Instagram, trust me, we are proud of things you do.
Thanks for writing to us, you are not alone and I hope you look after yourself.
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I used to suffer with depression, but I'm much better now, or at least I've been much better this year, But lately I've noticed that I have been showing signs of depression again, and I don't know what to do anymore. I just wanna sleep through my life, and just disappear.
The signs that you got through the depression the first time you dealt with it is a good thing, you need to focus and try to remember what techniques and strategies you used to get through it the previous time, as different things may work for different people. If not, putting yourself in a positive environment with friends (usually outside of school) but still making sure that you don't feel overwhelmed with it all, help can sometimes start with the people around you. Maybe a close relative or friend can talk with you to help let off some steam. It's all about times and personal help in the end, do what makes you comfortable.
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So I've had a girlfriend for two months and it's my first real relationship. I'm 15 and I've never kissed anyone before. Well I'm staying at my friends tonight for her birthday and my gf (let's call her Hannah Montana) she is staying tonight as well. And when we stay at my friends we usually just share beds since she has a bunk but now it's different because we are dating and I have this feeling deep down we might kiss because there's been those little times when if one of us moves we would've. I'm really nervous about this because i don't know how to kiss and Hannah Montana is as inexperienced as me ugh it's really confusing but i hope you understand.
If there's any advice please help before tonight thank you
I'm Sophia. And yes, your first kiss can be scary. However, I'm telling you- it WILL be ok. Now, likely, you two may share a bed. If you do, fret not. Just breathe and relax. Just talk to her, and if the moment is right, go for it. However, if you're scared, just talk to her about how you feel. I'm sure she'll understand. She may even feel the same way! May good luck and good vibes be sent your way- and remember- be yourself
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Hi so I don't really know what to do anymore.last year was the worst year of my life,I had a lot going in at school and did a few things I was not proud of and I hated myself for a long time because of it.then I decided everything was a product of the choices I had made so I eliminated all those people out of my life in hopes that it would get better some time but it didn't. I live with my gran and aunt and they treat me like absolute crap they shout at me for nothing and really just mentally put me down and is gets so bad sometimes and I walked out of the hose this morning I'm supposed to be going to school but I'm sitting on the road cause I'm in tears and I can't go to school like this I don't know what to do because it is getting really bad and I'm scared I do something I regret like I did previously.and on top of it I have really bad anger issues and its getting bad again and I'm scared I end up hurting someone seriously
Hi I'm Lily, nice to meet you ❤
Maybe you haven't had the best year of your life. However, if you really try and learn from your mistakes then things can turn for the better. Eliminating people from your life isn't always the answer, sometimes you can learn to live with them and repair whatever you/they broke in your relationship.
It's great that you're understanding your mistakes and how some things are a result of those mistakes! That's the first step in changing for the better and realising your flaws.
The situation with your Auntie and Gran is quite complicated I'm sure. However, at the end of the day, they are your family and they can't help but love you. It's a common occurrence for family members to shout at you for no reason, but if you ever feel like it's getting too much then try and find something to distract yourself. Like a hobby or maybe even a club that can lighten your spirit and help you to meet new people.
If you're finding it difficult to find a club or distract yourself, then try telling your family how you feel. They may not understand but they may think about how they act towards you if you tell them.
If you're scared about hurting someone because you have anger issues then try some breathing exercises, maybe even a charm or item to fiddle with to help you calm down. I used to have really bad anger issues and I always found that taking deep breaths and fiddling with magnets helped me.
I really hope I've helped you out even if it's just a little ❤
Good luck! You'll get through this xx
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Teenage is supposed to be the brightest years of life filled with friends, families, rebellious teen spirit, joy, happiness. but for me it didn't unravelled so. having no friends and family issues that demanded a lot of me (which was right, but a little early I guess and definitely not the way I'd imagined). with all that the inner child dies and I can feel mine suffocating.
It is often said that your teenage years are supposed to be the best years of your life. Feeling like everything is unravelling based on that phrase is something that a lot of people go through.
My advice for this is to find an anchor. Find something that you can immerse yourself in, that you can use over and over again to bring you that joy, be it a band/ music artist you like to listen to, an extracurricular activity like a book club. Finding people with common interests is the easiest way to make friends. Remember to focus on the positives, the lessons you learn compared to where you'll be in 5-10 years. Go have fun. That's what being a teenager is all about.
I know family issues are difficult. I've gone through five years of them. This is how I picked myself up. It's how I reminded myself that it's okay to have fun, to make mistakes.
Hope this helps you,
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