So I've had a girlfriend for two months and it's my first real relationship. I'm 15 and I've never kissed anyone before. Well I'm staying at my friends tonight for her birthday and my gf (let's call her Hannah Montana) she is staying tonight as well. And when we stay at my friends we usually just share beds since she has a bunk but now it's different because we are dating and I have this feeling deep down we might kiss because there's been those little times when if one of us moves we would've. I'm really nervous about this because i don't know how to kiss and Hannah Montana is as inexperienced as me ugh it's really confusing but i hope you understand.
If there's any advice please help before tonight thank you
I'm Sophia. And yes, your first kiss can be scary. However, I'm telling you- it WILL be ok. Now, likely, you two may share a bed. If you do, fret not. Just breathe and relax. Just talk to her, and if the moment is right, go for it. However, if you're scared, just talk to her about how you feel. I'm sure she'll understand. She may even feel the same way! May good luck and good vibes be sent your way- and remember- be yourself
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I haven't been happy in 12 years, I'm 17. What do I do if I see no point to living.
Hello, my name is Naomi and although you may not feel like there is a point to living... there is. You can do whatever you want with this one life that you have. You can achieve you greatest dreams. I know it's 'cheesy' but it's true. You can be whoever you want to be. If you truly see no point in life then I do have some tips on how to try to change that. Firstly, you could practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is when you take a couple minutes of your time to fully concentrate your mind on one specific thing such as the leaves on the trees. Think about their colour, how they sound when you stand on them, how they blow in the wind, how the feel, etc. Or you can go through your five senses. What can you see? What can you hear? What can you smell? What does everything around you feel like? Is there something you can taste. This exercise helps to ground you and allows you concentrate more whilst relieving stress. This also may help you see some of the beauty in the world. I also recommend volunteering at a place in which you can help others. Helping others gives you purpose and it will bring you joy. Volunteer at a pet shelter, an elderly home or even a charity shop. You could also take up a new hobby. Try something you've never done before or create a list of things you want to try in that month! I also recommend making a future board. Plan for the future and where you'd like to be in five years. Will you be at college or University? Do you want to move into your own house? What will you study? Where will you work? What will your bedroom or house look like? Will you have pets. This will give you something to strive for and goals to aim for. This also may help motivate you to do work, etc. I hope my advice helps in some way! You are an amazing person that is capable of amazing things.
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How do I stop being shy of being gay?
to help stop being shy about your sexuality, you first need to accept yourself as once you have accepted yourself fully you can conquer any feelings that come, no matter what they are. Never let others or even yourself mate you believe that you need to change who you are, no one just wakes up one morning thinking 'today I'm going to be gay,' it takes a lot of thinking and exploring to figure out who you are. It's easier for some than for others. When the time is right some people including myself decide to tell those closest to them, this doesn't necessarily include family. I found once I had told my closest friends I was more confident to show the true me and was initially less shy. You also should understand that you are no different to any straight person or person of any other sexuality. Find the source of what makes you shy and work with it after all it's more difficult to lose it than to work with it and to not let it affect you.
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Hey, I really don't why I get panic attacks.
Can you please explain them?
Hi, It s perfectly natural to not know where your panic attacks come from.
They can arise from a variety of different situations, individual to each person. The scientific reason is that if your body under goes lots of physical or mental strain a panic attack can happen. So for example, if you are put in a situation that makes you terrified or extremely anxious, your brain can't cope with all the signals it's receiving and triggers a panic attack.
It might be worth keeping a diary of everytime you have a panic attack and what happened just before it. This way you will be able to identify possible triggers for your panic attacks. Once you know what triggers them you can work on creating coping mechanisms.
- Christian x
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