Okay, so basically last year I was in a very abusive relationship with a guy one year older than me. I'll call him T. How was he abusive? He always made me feel like I wasn't worth anything. He isolated me from my friends. And he forced me to do sexual things with him at school.
We broke up so many times, but 2 months ago, we finally broke up for real. But even though now I don't have to deal with the abuse anymore ((i have a new boyfriend)), I actually got PTSD from the relationship, which sucks because I already have depression and anxiety.. I have constant flashbacks that cause me to have anxiety attacks/freak out at random times. I'm scared of him.. I see him every day in the halls, and I always feel like he's going to approach me.
I told my counselor, but she told me I was just overreacting..
Any advice on what I should do?
First things first, you are not over reacting, and congratulations on getting yourself out of that situation. You deserve better than him.
That situation sounds so difficult. Personally I have also been through abuse and I know how it feels to go through flashback. My first main advice is to speak out about the flashbacks to people as you cannot deal with them just by yourself! Do you have a doctor you can visit? I really do think that may give you a massive help. If you'd like to talk about it any further feel free to message me on Facebook and I am always here.
If he approaches you, keep your cool. You're over him, correct? He doesn't deserve your fear or your tears. Talk calmly, stay collected, and try to have a friend there to back you up. If you look like you're over him and are finally confident, it'll happen in reality and he'll leave you alone. Headphones are also a good idea, if you don't want to talk to him.
Also Allie- it may be worth reporting that he forced you. It is not okay to do that and it may be beneficial making a statement to the police about it
I hope some of this helped, remember that you deserve the best and you have worth. Stay safe
Caitlyn and Kira
Sent in via contact form
So I've had a girlfriend for two months and it's my first real relationship. I'm 15 and I've never kissed anyone before. Well I'm staying at my friends tonight for her birthday and my gf (let's call her Hannah Montana) she is staying tonight as well. And when we stay at my friends we usually just share beds since she has a bunk but now it's different because we are dating and I have this feeling deep down we might kiss because there's been those little times when if one of us moves we would've. I'm really nervous about this because i don't know how to kiss and Hannah Montana is as inexperienced as me ugh it's really confusing but i hope you understand.
If there's any advice please help before tonight thank you
I'm Sophia. And yes, your first kiss can be scary. However, I'm telling you- it WILL be ok. Now, likely, you two may share a bed. If you do, fret not. Just breathe and relax. Just talk to her, and if the moment is right, go for it. However, if you're scared, just talk to her about how you feel. I'm sure she'll understand. She may even feel the same way! May good luck and good vibes be sent your way- and remember- be yourself
Sent in via contact form
I'm 18 and I feel sad and awkward because I never had a boyfriend, and I don't know why do I make a big deal out of this!
Hello there, I am Sophia!
I am 17, and I used to feel the same way. So, here's my advice: your being is so much more than having a man by your side. Men at this age are immature, so if they haven't noticed you, it isn't your fault. You're an amazing person; I can tell by the way you were comfortable enough to reach out for help. So if I were you, I'd give the boys time to mature. However, if you're considering a relationship, remember that relationships are a give and take. You need to put as much of yourself out there as you can while maintaining your current lifestyle. Relationships are sacrifice, so make sure you are ready for that sort of commitment. If you are, look for someone who appreciates you for everything you are AND aren't. Try starting as friends, and slowly work your way into a trusting relationship. Remember you are never forced to stay with someone: if they insult you, leave. Be who you are, and you will find someone right for you eventually. Stay strong!
Send in via chatbot
Our Tumblr is:
We choose the most suited member of TWE to answer your questions!