Hi. I'm not sure quite where to begin. I guess I'll jump straight into it - I think I have an eating disorder. I've done some research and found one that fits me all do well - compulsive eating disorder. If I'm honest, I don't think my parents would be all too supportive, and my grandparents would be plain rude about it. I have had the same body type all my life - I'm skinny and slightly above average height for my age - and if I'm honest, it only appears as a hindrance for recovery. It feels like the only way I can recover is by developing a hatred for my body and forcing myself to diet in some sick, twisted way. The problem is, this has been going on for three years, nearly, though I've only just noticed it. I have no other ideas on recovery, there are no articles for this type of eating disorder here, and I don't think I have anywhere else to turn to.
First of all, I just want to say that you have definitely made a good start by realising that there is a problem. I beg that you don't self diagnose though and seek the help of a health care professional when you can. Whether your school nurse or psychologist, family doctor or general practitioner (GP), or you ask a trusted family friend or adult if you are a minor, or even just ask a friend to go with you.
I've done some research since reading your question on Compulsive Eating Disorder or Binge Eating Disorder (CED or BED) to see what the best thing for you to do now might be. I still strongly urge you to go and get a diagnosis and then talk treatment options with a professional. If this is strongly out of the question then I think there are a few things that you could do for yourself in a healthy way to change your habits.
First of all, definitely have meal/food journal. Whether this be an app on your phone, or just written out on some lined paper. Tracking everything you eat in a day is a good start to any change in diet. From there, make notes on when you are eating the most and in that time period you can try distract yourself with something else that is healthier and/or more productive than a compulsive binge.
Drink water every time you feel like eating something, wait twenty minutes and then decide if you want to eat it. It is important that you do eat three healthily proportioned meals a day though. However drinking water before a meal will help you feel fuller quicker.
I really hope that this has helped you, and I am sorry on behalf of the TWE writers that there aren't many articles on eating disorders especially ones related to EDNOS (eating disorders not otherwise specified) or CED/BED.
I hope that you find it a little easier to smile and deal with this issue. If you want to send in another question on what to do about the parents and grandparents issue then please do, we will be happy to help.
Thank you for reaching out to us, but this is just the first step. Keep going!
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How do I get exam motivation to be able to sit down and revise? I know in my head that I need to, but when it comes to sitting down and putting the pen to the paper I just dont have the motivation to do it. Instead I waste most of my days away watching shows, other than doing what I know I need to do
This is a common problem with trying to study, and I know for a fact that I have done this many times in the last few weeks. What I would suggest doing is making sure you are in quiet room with no distractions. Make sure that your phone is either in another room on silent, or tuned off completely. If you have to use your computer as a word processor, turn off your internet for a while until you are done, but if you need your computer for research, consider finding the information and printing it off so that that temptation to go on social media is minimum. If you still can't concentrate and find yourself getting distracted, go for a short walk or jog and come back to it after. If it is actually getting motivated to do the studying, think of what might happen if you don't, and prepare a small reward for if you do finish it.
Hope this helps,
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I have been feeling left out ...i just move to a new place . My "best friends" uh well they know I have mental illness...but they always say i'm trying to help you..but really i feel like they are getting annoyed so i have ask them to stop texting me....i feel lost....
Moving to a new place can be scary and if you're quite a reserved person it can be very hard to try and make new friends.
If you're friends know you have a mental illness and they say they're trying to help you, it's most likely true. If they didn't care and you were annoying them, they wouldn't tell you they're trying to help.
I know it is very hard having a mental illness and it sucks to feel like you have no one standing beside you. But in all of the dark that you're in, there's a lot of people who will stand by you and will help you through what you're going through. I wouldn't suggest asking your friends not to text you too often, as it could become a habit and you may end up distancing yourself a lot from then and I think that would worsen your situation.
Please remember you have a lot of people next to you, even if it doesn't feel like it.
You're very important to your friends and if they're trying to help you, I think you should let them.
The paranoia in your head telling you that you're annoying them is wrong. You're friends are there to help you and stick by you, so maybe confront them about how you're feeling. Telling them you're worried that you're annoying them could lead them to reassure you you're not.
I hope I could be of help and please come to us again if you have any other issues you struggle to talk about
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Hi, lately I've been getting the feeling that I'm hollow, almost as if I'm empty inside Okay
This can be quite a common feeling, even though unpleasant, for people who are going through their teenager years. Some things that you can do to feel less hollow is writing or drawing, or any creative outlet that you have. You can show people, or you can just keep it to yourself,especially if it makes you happy!
If this hollowness is also linked with no motivation and a feeling of helplessness, then maybe now is a good time to surround yourself with good influences and supportive friends.
If there is also a feeling of loneliness, I suggest reaching out to some people online, us being a great start! As well as making friends around you.
Now don't panic or self diagnose yourself with any mental health issues! Please go see a medical or mental health professional before taking the step of a diagnosis. This could be a very normal reaction to your hormones or to just being a teenager. It just means you need some you time, and a little extra support.
Have a bath, paint your nails, ride your bike or cuddle a cute animal, watch a funny video, and hang out with some nice people.
Do NOT lock yourself away with a feeling of hollowness or emptiness.
If you create anything you are proud of, feel free to email it to us and we can post it on our Instagram, trust me, we are proud of things you do.
Thanks for writing to us, you are not alone and I hope you look after yourself.
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I used to suffer with depression, but I'm much better now, or at least I've been much better this year, But lately I've noticed that I have been showing signs of depression again, and I don't know what to do anymore. I just wanna sleep through my life, and just disappear.
The signs that you got through the depression the first time you dealt with it is a good thing, you need to focus and try to remember what techniques and strategies you used to get through it the previous time, as different things may work for different people. If not, putting yourself in a positive environment with friends (usually outside of school) but still making sure that you don't feel overwhelmed with it all, help can sometimes start with the people around you. Maybe a close relative or friend can talk with you to help let off some steam. It's all about times and personal help in the end, do what makes you comfortable.
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So I've had a girlfriend for two months and it's my first real relationship. I'm 15 and I've never kissed anyone before. Well I'm staying at my friends tonight for her birthday and my gf (let's call her Hannah Montana) she is staying tonight as well. And when we stay at my friends we usually just share beds since she has a bunk but now it's different because we are dating and I have this feeling deep down we might kiss because there's been those little times when if one of us moves we would've. I'm really nervous about this because i don't know how to kiss and Hannah Montana is as inexperienced as me ugh it's really confusing but i hope you understand.
If there's any advice please help before tonight thank you
I'm Sophia. And yes, your first kiss can be scary. However, I'm telling you- it WILL be ok. Now, likely, you two may share a bed. If you do, fret not. Just breathe and relax. Just talk to her, and if the moment is right, go for it. However, if you're scared, just talk to her about how you feel. I'm sure she'll understand. She may even feel the same way! May good luck and good vibes be sent your way- and remember- be yourself
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Hi so I don't really know what to do anymore.last year was the worst year of my life,I had a lot going in at school and did a few things I was not proud of and I hated myself for a long time because of it.then I decided everything was a product of the choices I had made so I eliminated all those people out of my life in hopes that it would get better some time but it didn't. I live with my gran and aunt and they treat me like absolute crap they shout at me for nothing and really just mentally put me down and is gets so bad sometimes and I walked out of the hose this morning I'm supposed to be going to school but I'm sitting on the road cause I'm in tears and I can't go to school like this I don't know what to do because it is getting really bad and I'm scared I do something I regret like I did previously.and on top of it I have really bad anger issues and its getting bad again and I'm scared I end up hurting someone seriously
Hi I'm Lily, nice to meet you ❤
Maybe you haven't had the best year of your life. However, if you really try and learn from your mistakes then things can turn for the better. Eliminating people from your life isn't always the answer, sometimes you can learn to live with them and repair whatever you/they broke in your relationship.
It's great that you're understanding your mistakes and how some things are a result of those mistakes! That's the first step in changing for the better and realising your flaws.
The situation with your Auntie and Gran is quite complicated I'm sure. However, at the end of the day, they are your family and they can't help but love you. It's a common occurrence for family members to shout at you for no reason, but if you ever feel like it's getting too much then try and find something to distract yourself. Like a hobby or maybe even a club that can lighten your spirit and help you to meet new people.
If you're finding it difficult to find a club or distract yourself, then try telling your family how you feel. They may not understand but they may think about how they act towards you if you tell them.
If you're scared about hurting someone because you have anger issues then try some breathing exercises, maybe even a charm or item to fiddle with to help you calm down. I used to have really bad anger issues and I always found that taking deep breaths and fiddling with magnets helped me.
I really hope I've helped you out even if it's just a little ❤
Good luck! You'll get through this xx
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Teenage is supposed to be the brightest years of life filled with friends, families, rebellious teen spirit, joy, happiness. but for me it didn't unravelled so. having no friends and family issues that demanded a lot of me (which was right, but a little early I guess and definitely not the way I'd imagined). with all that the inner child dies and I can feel mine suffocating.
It is often said that your teenage years are supposed to be the best years of your life. Feeling like everything is unravelling based on that phrase is something that a lot of people go through.
My advice for this is to find an anchor. Find something that you can immerse yourself in, that you can use over and over again to bring you that joy, be it a band/ music artist you like to listen to, an extracurricular activity like a book club. Finding people with common interests is the easiest way to make friends. Remember to focus on the positives, the lessons you learn compared to where you'll be in 5-10 years. Go have fun. That's what being a teenager is all about.
I know family issues are difficult. I've gone through five years of them. This is how I picked myself up. It's how I reminded myself that it's okay to have fun, to make mistakes.
Hope this helps you,
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I'm 14 and my brother is 12. He constantly calls me fat. I know I'm not "thin" but I'm not a sumo wrestler but I'm afraid it's got me really watching my weight without realising it. In PE this morning we were in the gym and i was watching the calorie bar like a hawk. I guess there's not much advice you guys can give for this thing but help Please.
Hi Rose Quartz,
The first thing you should remember is that the only person’s opinion on your body and appearance that matters is your own. Your brother calling you fat might make you feel insecure but as long as you know that you’re a healthy weight then that’s the important thing, because being exceptionally skinny is just unhealthy as being overweight.
If you are worried about being overweight and would like to lose some weight, then doing it the right way is also important. When you’re 14, your body is constantly changing and going through puberty so having enough energy and food is vital. A healthy way to go about it would be consciously making healthier decisions about food (not eating less or starving yourself) and doing a bit more exercise - you don’t have to join a gym, but little things can help like walking to school rather than getting the bus or going in the car.
If your brother is constantly calling you fat, it may be worth talking to your parents/carer and getting them to talk to him and asking him to stop.
I hope this helps!
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I'm 13 years old, can I use a binder? My mother thinks it's bad for my body but I hate my breasts.
You can bind at 13 as long as you buy a proper, fitting binder (I recommend GC2B binders). However at 13 you're still developing and to bind safely you'll have to keep buying a bigger size as you grow, which can be expensive. If you can afford it then give it a try, but I would personally wait until you've grown a bit to be safe.
Hope that this helps!
Eli (guest writer)
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