hi, what should i do because i ‘like’ my friend’s boyfriend and i’m not really sure how I’m ‘supposed’ to feel or if its ‘wrong’ to feel like this. Please help if u can :)
Hi Ellie! Thank you for contacting TWE.
You cannot help who you end up liking. It's a part of life that just happens. However, what you can help is whether you end up acting on it or not.
I understand with him being in a relationship with your friend, it leaves you in a difficult position. While there isn't much you could do to act on it which he is in a relationship, you could talk to your friend about it. This might help you to express what's happening but also make her aware that you wouldn't act on it while they are together.
Personally, I've never seen liking a friends ex as a bad thing, but I've never been in a situation where I've liked a friends boyfriend. It isn't a bad thing and it isn't wrong. As humans, we never really have a choice as to who we like in a romantic sense. It always just seems to happen. If you feel like you like him, then fair enough! There's nothing to say you cannot feel like this. It's normal in many senses.
You can check out our relationship and friendship articles here, which may be able to provide some more help: https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/relationship-articles.html
Hi, so I’ve been feeling really suicidal lately and it’s got to the point where even talking to my girlfriend isn’t helping, I spoke to my GP about it and was basically told not to worry about it, and that it would pass, it’s been two weeks since then and I’m still feeling suicidal and it’s getting harder for me not to do anything, what do I do?
Hey there. First of all I want to say that if you do feel suicidal and like you’ll do something harmful please please call 999 (or the emergency services wherever you’re from), they will be able to give you more immediate crisis help than your GP. From my own experience, GP’s are pretty reluctant to refer anyone to mental health services because of how many people need them, so my main piece of advice is keep going back. Keep asking and persist that you aren’t feeling any better and you need help. Maybe look to see if there are any local charities that offer counselling or therapy for free in the meantime, places like YPAS in Liverpool where I’m from really really helped me, and most cities have some sort of service like that. You can always look at our articles on suicidal thoughts, but I understand that sometimes you may just want a fix to the problem rather than to just read about it. I’m sending all my love for what it’s worth, you have a purpose in this life, things really do get better and I’d hate to know you didn’t make it to tomorrow.
Hey, so it is a new year and everything and like it is really daunting facing some bullies that have been blaming me for everything and hurting my feelings to the point that I cry in my room every night. Is there some advice you can give me to handle these feelings of shame or even fear.
Hi Frances, first of all, I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening to you, no one should ever go through that and especially not alone. Have you talked to your teachers or parents? They should always be the first port of call when dealing with something like this if you feel comfortable doing so. I would also look at this website if you feel safe doing that (https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/types-bullying/bullying/), there is some more professional advice on how to cope with different types of bullying. As for you feeling upset at night, try to distract yourself if you can! Look at pictures of cute dogs and cats, listen to some uplifting music and repeat positive mantras in your head. You should never ever feel ashamed of being bullied, this is absolutely not your fault, bullies can be nasty people who are usually just insecure themselves. Please, don't feel ashamed, there really is no reason to be. I hope this helps, Kaitlyn x
I was touched in an inappropriate place by a guy without my permission and it made me feel very violated and kind of like an object. I always go back to that moment and relive it sort of. I try to tell people how I feel it’s just that I always thought it counted as sexual assault and I feel like I shouldn’t talk about it because so many other people go through worse. What am I supposed to do? Anon
What you went through is absolutely sexual assault and you definitely should talk about it. It doesn't matter what other people have gone through, your experience is still important and deserves to be spoken about. You don't necessarily have to report it to the police if you don't want to although it may help to stop them doing it to someone else if the police talk to him about it. Otherwise, you may find it easier and more appropriate to tell a friend or family member so they can support you through the flashbacks and the difficult moments.
There are some articles on our website which may also help you if you need some more advice. Kenzie x
I'm planning on getting intimate with my boyfriend but i've never been intimate with anyone before and i have a massive ""fear"" of looking at a penis, any advice on how i could overcome this to gain a sexual part in our relationship?
Hi Saryna, I’m sure everyone feels like this before their first intimate experience, I know I did. Maybe you could talk to your boyfriend about your fears and things that you’re nervous or worried about so he knows how you’re feeling. As long as you take it slow and are not pressured into doing anything that you don’t want to do so it’s consensual for you both. I hope this helps! Sarah x
My best friend started getting really mad at me for every little thing and now she has refused to talk to me or even look at me for 5 days and I don't know what to do. She never gets mad over anything usually now all she ever is, is mad and I miss my best friend. I need advice.
Hi Taylor, thanks so much for contacting us. It sounds like you're going through a really hard time, whenever things go wrong in a friendship it can be difficult to deal with. If you haven't done anything to upset your friend and your friend is just getting mad at you, that sounds like an unhealthy friendship, so when the time is right and you feel able to, you might want to speak to her about the way she's made you feel.
You may also want to speak to her and ask her if anything is making her feel so unhappy at the moment. She may be unintentionally taking anger out on you, which isn't fair for you and isn't your fault, so you may want to ask her if anything has upset her recently.
In the meantime, you might find it helpful to talk to other friends, school mates or family to help you through. Good luck.
How do you know if your asexual or just immature? Can you be asexual if you aren’t disgusted by the mention of sex, but would never think about that sort of situation in respect to yourself? (Sorry if any of that sounded offensive, I’m a little confused myself and your comments about your earlier confusion resonated with what I’m feeling).
Hi Kate! Thank you for contacting us. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or having a low interest in or desire for sexual activity. Asexuality does not necessarily have to be finding the idea of sexual activity disgusting, or being disgusted by it.
The first thing to consider is how you would react to being in a situation which involves sexual activity. If you think you would be totally uninterested or have no sexual attraction, then it is possible! It could be, however, that you simply do not like them enough to feel comfortable having sexual interactions with them.
My best advice would be to see how you feel in different sexual activities and interactions. If you feel negatively towards them, it is possible you could be asexual, and it would be worth looking into it more!
Another factor to consider is your age and maturity levels. If you're not of consenting age, that could be why you never think about the situation. Chances are you won't think about it unless you're of consenting age to it. I don't think maturity levels would determine whether or not you think of yourself in a sexual situation, however if you have quite a low maturity level it may explain why you could be immature when thinking about anything sexual.
Good luck! I hope you work things out! Katie x
Hey. Lately I’ve been having a lot of stress problems and I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice on how they dealt with stress?
Hi Brooklyn! Thanks so much for sending us in a message. Stress is a natural part of life and it can actually sometimes be beneficial, as it allows us to realise when things need prioritising and resolving. However, stress can also really put a strain on our lives, and too much of it is unhealthy.
As someone who completely understands what it feels like to have a lot of stress, my top tip is that it's so important to make sure you make time for things you enjoy, and things that help you relax! Even carving out 30-60 minutes a day of you time will have a huge impact on how you feel, because it gives you the time to reflect on the day and calm down. Personally, I enjoy watching my favourite TV shows or reading a book during me time, but you can do whatever you like!
My other important bit of advice would be to make sure you talk to people, if need be a professional. Keeping stress bottled up only adds to the stress, so it's so helpful to spend some time telling others how you feel. If you feel you need more than the support of friends and family, you can talk to your GP about counselling services by you.
As well as this, it's sometimes helpful putting your stress into categories of things you can resolve and things you can't. For instance, if you're stressed about an essay you haven't written yet, you can take steps to resolving this (by doing your essay). If you're stressed about the fact your delivery hasn't arrived, there's not much you can do about that, so you can then work on asking yourself why you're so stressed and helping yourself calm down. I hope your stress starts to fade soon, and that these tips help you! - Emmy x
How to deal with feeling fat? I've recently been feeling like I've gained weight, even though it's maybe only been a few pounds in a few years which is natural at this age. My jeans had to be bought from a size 8 to a size 10 but I don't know if that's me being silly. A size 8 fits but i was worried id got fat so bought a 10. my weight is low for my age but i just cant help feeling so insecure that I've gotten heavy and ugly and chubby and...it's really getting me down.
Hi Josie! Thanks for contacting us here at TWE. Many teenagers go through periods where they have low self esteem and body confidence, and it can be very difficult to deal with. As you've said, it's natural to put on a few pounds as you grow and get older, and fitting into a size 10 is nothing to be worried about!
I think it may be worth talking to somebody you trust, such as a family member or friend about the way you're feeling. They may be able to reassure you and help you see from a different perspective. You may also want to try writing down a list of all the things you like about your body, it should help you to feel more body confident!
I would also encourage you to speak to a professional like your doctor. You said that your weight is low for your age, so I would imagine that this is a psychological issue where you're seeing your body as something it isn't! I think it may be beneficial to speak to a professional and see if they can help, they may be able to refer you to counselling or something similar. Good luck!
- Emmy x
i waited over a year to get help for my mh and i finally got a diagnosis today. i thought id be happy because id be able to see a therapist and start to figure out how to deal with what i was feeling, and i hoped people would take it seriously with a label, but now i just feel sad and confused. tips on getting a mental health diagnosis? how to tell people?
Thanks for contacting us. From personal experience I know getting a diagnosis is a touchy subject to talk about with your friends and family.
Seeing a therapist is different for everyone. Understanding your mental health and diagnosis is so important though. The best way you can go about this is through your GP to then discuss how it will effect you daily etc and then tell people you're comfortable with knowing.
Please don't feel sad! Confusion is completely natural and its a very different experience when you're finally diagnosed. Your mental health does not define you in any way. Remember we always have a member online on any of our social media platforms if you need further advice or help from us during this process.
I hope you start to feel better about this.
~ Abi x
Due to unforeseen circumstances, I think I’m pregnant. Due to my personal circumstances I cannot have a child but I don’t know what to do. I intended to have an abortion but that is so frowned upon and I’m scared it is being selfish (I suppose it could be?). I wouldn’t normally ask on such a public forum but I’ve spent weeks on Google which is filled with mixed answers, I can’t turn to family or friends because they’ll either judge me, get mad or tell me I have no option but to keep it. I don’t know what to do and I’m petrified.
Before making any definitive decisions, it's important to find out 100% whether or not you're pregnant. If you cannot afford a test, you can speak to the nurse at your college (if that is the circumstance you are in) or your doctor. Equally, you can find tests for super cheap at Poundland or the dollar store depending on where you are.
If you find out you are pregnant, only you can decide what happens, when it happens and how. If you are 100% certain you are not going to go through with birth etc, you can talk to your doctor about the abortion. I personally don't believe it would be selfish and as its your body and your choice but if you're struggling with guilt or doubt it can be overcome by talking to pro-choice groups or one of the counsellors offered pre/post the abortion process. The process itself is safe and generally quite simple and sometimes researching on the internet can lead to results that say otherwise. However, before it happens the doctor/nurse will talk through the process 100% and you have the choice to back out at anytime if you cannot do it. It's about deciding what you think is best and again, no one in your family should try to influence your decision as it is entirely up to you. Abortions are a very common thing in modern society and no one at the clinic will judge you or frown upon you. The most important person is you and you should put yourself before anything else in this situation.
All the best,
I want to know how to get ready to come out to close friends.
Hi Ellie! Thanks for getting in touch with us here at TWE!
I came out to my friends and family about a year or so ago and I understand how scary it can be and how hard it is to prepare, my main advice would just be to make sure you’re definitely ready, make sure you aren’t in any danger by coming out, for example if the person you are telling is homophobic you may be at a greater risk, plan how you want to come out (there are a few articles on this on the website) and make sure you can answer any questions people may ask you. I hope this helped you!
The thing I love more than anything else in the world is writing but I fear that I am not good at it. I may just be doubting myself but I need some writing tips.
Hi Destiny! Thank you for contacting TWE.
I used to write very often, so I know what it feels like to doubt your work. Here are some tips that helped me better my work and stop doubting myself:
-Remember everything takes time, and practice. You cannot better yourself without practicing and trying to better yourself. Maybe read through old work and see how it can be improved.
-Other people could read through your work. You could gather several opinions and criticisms, which you can then use to improve. While it may feel intimidating to be criticized, you could use friends or family.
-Try to work on your self-esteem and self-confidence, as well as your work itself. It is likely that we doubt ourselves due to us having low confidence.
So many things in my life are changing and all these changes have led to my grades dropping. I hate change and I feel like things are getting out of control. What do I do?
Hi Riley! Thank you for contacting TWE.
I understand that change can bring many negative feelings. I hate it when things in my life change, so I know exactly what it feels like. Your grades right now should be the priority, however. While having a lot of change take place around you can be intimidating, focus on the more important things happening, such as studying and improving your grades.
If possible, try to focus on your grades around the changes. While change can take a lot of time out your day, you need to try and find time spare to look after yourself and study. School and your grades are really important, so they need to be your main focus.
For me, I found that studying and doing work actually helped me cope better with the changes happening around me. When the changes were taking place, I was able to take myself out of the situation and focus on other things in my life.
We do have articles on our website relating to education, studying and change so you may benefit from reading those!
I have this guy who I like a lot. I have had lots of crushes before but I have never liked a guy this much before. This guy is really sweet and hates drama. It is really easy for him to make me laugh and smile. He gives the most amazing hugs but anyway there is a girl who used to be my best friend but she is trying to date this guy just because I like him and she wants revenge on me for something I didn't do. I asked this my crush to homecoming and he said no because he didn't want to make anyone mad and he didn't want to get in this middle of this drama. I don't know if that means he doesn't like me or he just didn't want to get involved in drama. How do I get him to like me if he doesn't?
Thank you for contacting TWE.
This boy you like sounds lovely, however it is important to understand that you cannot force him to love you.
It is understandable for him not to want to get in between you two, and it is important for you to understand his reason too. While he is lovely, you can't force him to get involved.
Maybe get to know him better, and let him get to know you. This will help you two be able to bond more, and feelings may grow through this! Anything is possible.
I'm moving out of the family home for university in September. I'm supposed to be happy and excited to start a new life for myself, but instead I'm overwhelmed with guilt and sadness. I know my mum didn't want me to leave home so I feely guilty and like I've left her behind. I also can't help but walk around my house thinking about how it won't be my house in a few weeks, and how my room won't be mine or how I'll have to leave so much behind. It just makes me sad, I know it's an important and exciting step into adulthood, but I also feel sad I'm leaving my home and can't shake it. I do want to leave home, my home life isn't fantastic right now and I keep coming over in waves of excitement as well, but the lows are very low. I really want to be going out and buying furniture for my new place and getting excited instead of being sad.
I know how you feel, moving out is such a big step and it can not only be scary, but it can often be sad. You do get this feeling of loss and often nostalgia as you remember what was and see how things will be different. You will not only miss the people you are leaving behind, but miss the moments and the materialistic things that make it home.
I moved out when I was eighteen, nearly two years ago, and at first it was hard. Hard to find the comfort and feeling of home that you long for, even hard to feel excited about choosing new furniture and designing your new rooms! It does come though.
You might feel homesick for a while, but you will settle into your new life and your new surroundings and it will become your home.
I suggest that you take your own pillows and blankets which you may already be taking, and maybe a teddy bear or any other comfort item that you can. Take a photo album or a box of things that remind you of home, but make sure that those items are conducive to you becoming happy and are not hindering your mental health.
In the end, and as hard as it may be, you just have to pick up and move. It's a huge and intimidating step, but most people do grow out of their childhood homes and it becomes time to make a new one. It's a big step, it's massive, but it isn't impossible and you aren't alone at all. There will be nearly everyone else at your uni that will have moved out of their family homes too, and some of them will be relieved about it, and there will be others like you that are struggling with the change.
Creating a new home, and new memories, is incredibly worth it. You will be so busy with your life and your study that your new home will become a safe space for you just as it should be.
I know it's hard, but taking responsibility for your life and accommodation is exciting, and you will eventually find it liberating. You might even find that going back home for holidays may be bittersweet, as the feeling of relief at being back is matched with the homesickness for your new home.
And I am assuming that your family will be there for you to Skype and call when you need them, they might even be able to send you care packages!
I am proud of you for getting into uni and for taking this step, and it will be worth it! You should be proud of yourself too, and I promise that moving out really can be freeing and ultimately be something worth getting excited over.
Good luck sweetheart!
Hi! It's probably going to be very long, I'm so sorry about that, I just really don't know who to talk to right now...
So I am bisexual and I've been in a 'relationship' with a girl for four months now - it is my first relationship. The reason I put quotation marks here is because she's not out to her family yet, so her parents don't know about us. She is also really shy and never acts like a girlfriend when we see each other. Like, she avoids contact, and I once asked if I could kiss her and she panicked and said no. Long story short, it doesn't feel like a relationship to me. I mean I do have a lot of affection for her, but I really feel like loosing my time here, like if we weren't together.
Meanwhile, a good friend of mine - a boy this time - recently made me understand that he loved me. I never felt that way about him, but now that I think about it, I'm confused about my feelings for him. We saw each other yesterday with our families and he said he'd kissed three girls during the summer. It made me a little angry because he apparently still talks with one of them like lovers, but he still asked me out? However, I probably don't have the right to be annoyed, after all I friendzoned him...
So the thing is, I don't know what to do now. I am not sure about my feelings for my girlfriend anymore. I understand how hard it is for her to come out and be more demonstrative, but I'm tired of hiding. At first I thought I would wait, of course, but then everything happened with my friend... I don't know if I should forget about him - I don't know if he's just playing with girls after what he said? I don't want to loose what I have with my girlfriend for it to be just a one night stand - and stay with my girlfriend even thought our relationship doesn't feel like one, or if I should break up with her and try to go out with my friend? Even knowing that would hurt my girlfriend if I break up with her? I now it's not the end of the world, it is just some teenager love after all, but I feel very lost and I don't want to hurt them - or myself.
Once again, I am so sorry for the rant. I don't expect a divine answer, of course, but I really need another point of view and some advice...
Hi Joanna, thank you for contacting TWE.
It sounds like you really love your girlfriend, so could you have a talk with her about having more contact, e.g. kissing and holding hands, when her family isn't around. This way it would make her understand that having contact is important for you. Having this talk with her may also prevent the loss of feelings, as you will be able to talk about it as a couple.
If she still has a problem with this, she needs to understand why it is an issue for you.
I also think having a discussion with the other boy could be beneficial. Make him aware of the issue between the other girls, as it is important for you. You may not like him romantically, but if anything were to happen in the future you would need to know the situation regarding other girls in his life.
So for a year now me and this boy have been like best friends and talk about feelings all the time. The thing though I feel like I might be falling for him but like when we started being friends he told me he wanted to be friends. I have no clue what to do I don’t want to hurt our relationship....
Hi Angel! Thank you for getting in touch with us at TWE ♡
It's important for you to understand your feelings first of all. Acknowledge you may have feelings for him, and work out whether or not you do for certain. You don't want to talk to him about it if you aren't sure!
If you realise you do like him, talk to him! open up about your feelings but ensure they're aware that you acknowledge they may not feel the same. Tell him how you feel, and make sure he knows there is no pressure on him to feel the same way.
Also make him remember you do not want this to tarnish your friendship and would appreciate it if you could remain friends.
Best of luck!♡
I'm taking a friend to a event soon but I feel like they're using me to attend the event.
we never see each other becuase they're always pre occupied with something else and always lying about wanting to see me.
i love them so much but I feel like they don't like me as much.
can i please get some help
Hi Elliot! Thanks for contacting us. It can be hard when we think our friends are lying to us, and if you think you're being used by them, it's understandable that you feel upset by it. Sometimes friends can get busy and struggle to see each other, I've sometimes gone quite a long time without seeing my friends, is it possible your friend may also be busy and struggling to find the time do things? If you feel like your friend isn't making time for you or lying, I think it may be best to talk to them about it, as tough as that may sound. Ups and downs are a part of friendships, and you deserve to be able to talk about how you're feeling. You may find they completely settle your worries and there's a reason why they've been unable to see you as much, or you may feel like what they've said has confirmed what you originally thought about the event and you can look into taking somebody else, as you don't need to be friends with people who use you! Whatever the outcome, I hope you have fun at your event! Good luck X
i'm doing so bad mentally and i have no clue what to do anymore...
i'm getting such bad intrusive thoughts and its starting to ruin me and my relationship as well. I've been distancing myself more and its hurting other people. i've become blunt and arguing more with people. i keep finding myself thinking what if about situations where id end up dying.
i'm trying my hardest to keep positive and okay and happy but it just isn't happening and its so difficult. i'm getting so frustrated with myself because of how bad i'm getting after having good mental health for so long.
Have you thought about potentially speaking to a therapist / counsellor of any kind? I completely understand where you're coming from. Distancing yourself from people probably isn't the wisest decision to make, as it won't make anything better. The way I got through a similar situation is I told a certain amount of people how I was feeling, and asked them if they could help me in little ways to take my mind off my thoughts.
I completely understand the bluntness thing you're talking about too. Its difficult to speak to people when they don't know your situation, so I think you should try speaking to a select amount of friends and see how you go.
hopefully those thoughts of "What if" will ease and make sure you're surrounding yourself with people you really trust. I hope you're able to get through this soon. Don't forget we are always available for a chat at TWE on any of our social media accounts.
I am sad all the time. I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and PTSD. I thought I was better, but I am just so sad and tired all the time now. And just being in the car in some streets is giving me panic attacks and PTSD episodes. I don't want to go back to therapy because I don't want my family to worry about me again. Is there something else that I can do?
Hiya, thanks so much for contacting us. Mental health is really important, and unfortunately a lot of people suffer from mental health issues, so you're not alone in how you're feeling. I'm sorry to hear certain situations are making you panic, I think you're doing the right thing to try to get some help. If you really don't want to go to therapy again, I'd suggest perhaps talking to your doctor to see if there's any other methods they can suggest, some services offer online counselling and other tools to help people, your doctor may also be able to suggest support groups, which is something you could also look into. Some people also find exercise or hobbies help them to feel better, if this is something you're comfortable doing.
I do think therapy would be a good route to go down, however I can understand it's scary when you think it's going to make your family worry. Your family care about you, they'll want you to get access to the best help possible, and I'm sure they would really want you to do what you think will help you. I'd really encourage you to reconsider and/or talk to your family about this, as you need to do what's going to be best for you. If you don't feel comfortable telling your family but still want therapy, most services are confidential so won't tell your parents anything, or that you've even contacted them. Good luck! - Emmy
Hey Teens with experience
My sexuality has been something I have struggled with for 4 years. I never thought about it, I always assumed I was straight (the default right?) until a girl I was talking to in class asked me what my sexuality was, I new she was Bi and I hesitated. I answered with "I never thought about it". This has haunted me since, why did I hesitate?
Since then I kinda repressed it until recently when I watched something that made all my questioning resurfaced. I wouldn't care except it's affecting my everyday life. I have never been sexually attracted to anyone so I thought I was maybe asexual? But I can imagine myself being romantic and sexual with people of any gender? Nothing repulses me and I don't know if this is because I'm not bothered by the LGBT+ community, or because I have a very strong imagination?
I just really want to learn who I am, I feel like part of myself is missing, I feel like I don't know myself.
Hi Laila, thanks so much for contacting us here at TWE! Sexuality can be a difficult thing to navigate, and questioning it is something many young people experience at some point. Being a teenager is the time when people become aware of their romantic interest, and also start to experiment a bit for some, so it's totally natural for you to be beginning to think about your sexuality.
However, if thinking about your sexuality is becoming an issue for you, it's a great think you've reached out for help. Although I can fully understand that not being able to identify yourself with a particular group or label such as bi, asexual, gay, etc.. can be difficult and leave you feeling lost, many people actually go through life without calling themselves anything, and focus on what they like without worrying about what to call themselves. Your sexuality is a big part of you, so if you're trying to work out what it is you like, perhaps try to focus more on exactly that, knowing what you do and don't like, instead of trying to work out what term you fit under. Also, you may not know for a while now exactly what you like, and that's also okay! Don't rush into anything, just make sure that whatever happens, you're comfortable and happy with it, it doesn't matter who it is (or isn't) with, and who knows, perhaps along the way you'll work out how you'd like to identify. For now though, just know that lots of young people go through your situation, and it's completely okay to not know who you are just yet, just try to focus on whatever makes you happy!
All the best - Emmy
Hi, so since it's pride month and I'm genderfluid, I want to come out to my mum on genderfluid pride day (16th of June) but I'm not sure what to say or how to explain it since she isn't very aware of all of the gender identities and their definitions, what should I do?
Hi Tegan! It may be worth explaining to your mum what it means to be genderfluid, because then she has a full understanding of what you’re trying to tell her you are. Possibly plan a little bit of what you want to say to her, but don’t over think it - this will probably make you a lot more nervous as you’re trying to remember all these things you want to explain to her. Try and treat it as a relatively normal conversation; sit her down and just say that you need to talk to her about something. That’s a good way of showing her that it’s important to you. Then maybe explain that you’re genderfluid, and then define what that means, and just see where the conversation takes you. Good luck, I hope it all goes well! - Tasha x
I recently got taken out of school to be homeschooled because of my bad anxiety and a traumatic experience that I had at school but now I won’t be able to do my GCSE’s because it’s too expensive to take them out of school and I’m really worried that I won’t have a good future. I really don’t know what to do :(
Hi Eve, thanks for contacting us. There are alternatives to GCSEs, such as apprenticeship schemes which will take you below GCSE level and train you up for the sort of job you want, or BTECs if that would be more affordable. Job experience is also really good, if you can get any of that! You may also be able to look into colleges which offer GCSE retakes, they may be willing to take you on if that's something you'd feel comfortable doing. You could also look into things like counselling which may enable you to feel more comfortable and confident applying to a different school later on. Besides that, have you or your family spoken about the possibility of only taking a few GCSEs, such as Maths, English, and perhaps Science? This may be more affordable, or it may be worth looking into if your parents could get any extra financial help to aid this. Not having qualifications isn't the end of the road, there are other options, such as apprenticeships which I mentioned above, which still offer success. - Emmy
I think I may have depression but my parents and none of my friends will believe me and just think I want attention. How do I know for sure if I have it. Samantha
Hi Samantha! Thanks for getting in touch with us. If you think you have depression, the best thing to do would be to go to see your doctor. A medical professional is the only person who can diagnose you, and if they find you do have depression, there are lots of things they can suggest to help you, such as counselling, which is completely confidential if you don't want to tell anyone. I hope if you do decide to tell your friends or family, that they are nice, perhaps if you were comfortable you could bring them to a second doctors appointment if they do find you have depression? That way the doctor could speak to them about it. Good luck! - Emmy
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