you are not alone in this. A lot more people do it than you think, so if you are worried that you
are just being silly or rude, it's actually very common. I, myself, have cancelled on numerous
occasions. I have just turned sixteen, and in the past five years multiple excuses have been
thrown about to get me out of plans."My mum said I can't go" or "I'm actually really sick" or "sorry!
I forgot I had plans" are just a few.
Growing up with anxiety has made me very stressed about little things such as plans for days
out with friends. I will be eager to do said plans (for example, going shopping), but then I will wake up on the day and my insides will feel extremely tight and I will feel sick because I genuinely do not want to go. What is the worrying part about it is how to tell my friend that I'm not going, do I tell them that I don't want to go or do I make up an excuse? It is just far too stressful.
Growing up like I did, people have never understood my anxiety therefore it is very hard to
explain why I don't want to go outside. Therefore it has always been a struggling issue, it had
lead to me losing friends. But what I find is the easier option, having turned 16 I've realised that honesty is the best way to go about it. This is because if you are honest, the worst that can
happen is you losing your "friend". Friend is apostrophised because evidently if they don't
understand your issues then they were never really a friend. Either way it is an eye opening situation, it can go two ways. They can be an amazing friend and understand and reschedule for another time, or they can walk away because they don't see anxiety as it really is and be arrogant towards it.
If you’re not comfortable telling them about your situation that’s understandable, but lying to
them can lead to so many complications. Honesty IS the best policy.
I really hope if you're struggling with these concerns then this has really helped you. Small things such as making and cancelling plans can be stressful, but having experienced both honesty and making up excuses I find that honesty will always be the most reasonable and mature option.