This time 2 years ago I stated secondary school in Ireland. I couldn’t wait to get out of my primary school, I thought this was a new start and that I’d make new friends
I naturally had first day nerves with butterflies tingling in my stomach, the problem was that those first day butterflies continued on for a few weeks and months. I was introduced to anxiety and panic attacks for the first time which was a big shock. (I’ll talk about that later.) I was overwhelmed, I threw myself into school and didn’t take time to properly settle in and feel my way through. I was separated from my two best friends on the first day and was thrown into a class with boys, a big shock to the system for me as I came from an all girls primary school and had been in one for the last eight years.
I’d say I got sick most mornings just from nerves. I couldn’t hold down food in the morning and to be honest I can’t two years later either because I still freak out going to school. But things have gotten better for sure, you see I was never a great settler. I didn’t settle properly into primary school for about 3 years. So I don’t know why I thought this time around would be any different. But it definitely had gotten better, thank god. I don’t think id be able to sustain my physical or mental mind-set! But I’m here to help you get through this is you’re having a tough time, and you will get through this.
1) Identify what’s getting you down and try and find a solution.
Whether it’s a friend situation, teacher or such a simple thing as doing PE during the week talk to yourself and identify what’s wrong. In my situation I didn’t know what was wrong with me it was just a mixture of all the things above combined and with my very sensitive personality thrown into the mix, I was a complete mess. But if it’s a simple thing that is getting you down and is quite easy to change then change it. Especially if you’re starting a new school it’s a whole new world full of open opportunities. You may not think it but sometimes the scariest teacher are the nicest ones to talk to.
2) Mental Health in school.
If you’re having a problem with you mental health meaning that you’ve started suffering from panic attacks, anxiety attacks or just nerves the best thing to do would be to talk to someone about it. I wouldn’t recommend telling a friend especially if it’s a new friend that you’ve made recently, rumours get around quicker than ever in school and you don’t want everyone knowing your private business. If there is a councillor in your school that would be the ideal option. They see these situations everyday and know exactly what to do when making you feel better and happier. If you don’t want to talk to a councillor because you’re not into sharing private details with someone you don’t know very well talk to your favourite teacher or even your parents, they’ve been through these thing as well and know you better than you think!
3) Stressing about the little things.
When you start a new school it’s very easy to let all your emotions get to your head and just let them turn you into a crying mess. Bad idea, I know from experience. These are the thing I’ve learnt to letting you stop stressing about the minor thing while starting school.
If you are worried about your timetable;
There are a lot of complications when getting a new timetable. Worrying if you won’t be able to find your classroom, Not knowing the teacher or not having any friends in your class. I spent day worrying about timetables in the past and it’s all pointless. What will happen will happen. If you wake up in the morning and you feel overwhelmed about what you have to do in the one particular day go through your timetable in your head. Think about every class and where in sit and what you’ll be learning about. Doing this all your problem should shrink away and you’ll be a lot more calm.
If you are worried about friends;
Have a large circle of friends so you aren’t stuck if your one friend isn’t in one day. Its also to develop your social skills. Don’t put yourself under any pressure to talk to boys or girls of you went to a boys or girls only school. The time will come when you feel comfortable around them naturally.
So there are a few little tips that will hopefully help you get through school if you’re having a bit of a hard time. I hope that it will be ale to help you.
Trust me it will get better as time goes on. Time is the best healer. This is coming from the girl who cried every day of school until Christmas and was seen running down the corridors in school crying. It does get better, I promise.
I wish you the best of luck and so much happiness,
Lots of love,
Ella Rose xx
I hope it's okay!
Ella Rose xx