There is no doubt that every person experiences this type of envy in their lifetime. Although embarrassing, I can recount moments where I felt the sting of being single while others in my circle of friends were in somewhat happy relationships. Envy can grip you and it can be hard to shake off. Here are some tips to dealing with relationship envy:
-Realize that romance only makes up a small portion of life. Careers, family, and friendships are other aspects of life that deserve your attention. Instead of focusing on what you are ‘missing’ and your unhappiness, it would help to focus on what you do have.
-Cultivate your happiness through things you can control. Pursue your passions and dreams to focus on a positive aspect of life.
-Figure out why the relationship is making you envious. Jealousy is a reflection of what we secretly desire, so figuring out why can be the key to relieving the envy you feel. Absolving that envy and getting what you want will return things to normalcy.
-If you are emotionally and physically ready to date, put yourself out there on the market! A significant other unfortunately will not fall out of the sky and into your waiting arms. There is a bit of work involved, but there could be a relationship in the cards for you at the end.
At the end of the day, envy is a emotion that rears its ugly head and we always fall because we are only human. The best thing you can do is healthily deal with the negative effects before it poisons your relationships with those coupled friends.